Should married men and women be friends with the opposite sex? That’s a question many people may have different views on.
I believe that if you are married, you shouldn’t have a very close relationship with the opposite sex. That doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends with your high school or college friends. It’s good to stay connected with them.
Why do I believe that? A close relationship involves sharing with each other intimate feelings, which can cause issues in your marriage. Intimate feelings are meant to be shared with your spouse, which helps draw you two closer together. When others share a part of those feelings, a wedge between the two of you can be made.
I also believe you shouldn’t be alone with a person of the opposite sex. You may think nothing is going to happen between the two of you, but it could happen. What if your marriage isn’t as strong as it should be? Do you think that since you are emotionally unstable that something wouldn’t happen? It may. All that has to happen is you open up to your friend that things aren’t going very well with your marriage. Then they comfort you. Then all of a sudden, something happens.
As an example, for those of you who watch Parenthood, Julia became friends with Ed while volunteering at their kids’ school. Their friendship became closer as they volunteered together. Julia and her husband, Joel become further and further apart. Julia become emotionally unstable and believed her marriage might be in trouble. Julia opened up to Ed about how she was feeling. Ed comforted her and gave her a hug. It eventually ended up with a kiss between the two.
Although this is a fictional story, it’s an example of what could happen.
That is why I believe what I do. If I don’t bring myself into those situations, it’s not going to happen. I don’t want a slightest chance for something to occur.
I love my husband with all of my heart and he is the only best friend of the opposite sex that I need.
I found an article about if married women/men should be best friends with the opposite sex. I definitely recommend this article. I agree with the points stated in the article.
*This post has been written to share my view points on this subject.